What is Consent?
What is Consent? Unfortunately a lot of people simple don’t know how to answer that question. If they don’t know how to answer that question, they might not know how to give consent. They might not know what consent sounds like.
Statistic show that 33.1% of women and 8.6% of men experience non-consensual sexual contact in college; 35% of these victims won’t report because it becomes “unclear that it was a crime or that harm was intended” (atthecrossroads.com). Often, neither the abuser nor the victim understand that it is always a crime to engage in sexual contact with someone without having given their consent.
PlannedParenthood.org says, “Sexual consent is an agreement to participate in a sexual activity. Before being sexual with someone, you need to know if they want to be sexual with you too. It’s also important to be honest with your partner about what you want and don’t want. Consenting and asking for consent are all about setting your personal boundaries and respecting those of your partner — and checking in if things aren’t clear.
Both people must agree to have sex — every single time — for it to be consensual.”
Freely given. Consenting is a choice you make without pressure, manipulation, or under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
Reversible. Anyone can change their mind about what they feel like doing, anytime. Even if you’ve done it before, and even if you’re both naked in bed.
Informed. You can only consent to something if you have the full story. For example, if someone says they’ll use a condom and then they don’t, there isn’t full consent.
Enthusiastic. When it comes to sex, you should only do stuff you WANT to do, not things that you feel you’re expected to do.
Specific. Saying yes to one thing (like going to the bedroom to make out) doesn’t mean you’ve said yes to others (like having sex).